One can try to ignore domestic violence but it affects 1 in 4 families and happens every 15 minutes in the United States. The question about the abuser should be "why did they abuse?" instead of asking the victim "why didn't you leave?" or "did you try hard enough?". Stop blaming as it is NOT the victim's fault.
Ask yourself: What could have been done different? The warning signs are all there!
Why did police humiliate her by making the victim! sleep in the van, but get her abuser a hotel room?
Remember: An abuser will often appear 'calm' while the victim is not 'buttoned up and acts emotional' because they are scared and hurting too - physically and emotionally.
STOP blaming victims! It is the abusers fault for hurting someone. RIP Gabby Petito #gabbypetito
There are many prongs shown in this domestic violence video: verbal, fiscal, physical, isolation, and it mostly happens behind closed doors. Domestic violence survivors struggle years later with PTSD and especially if their partner is not jailed - they live in daily fear. Even with a Final Restraining Order, emotional abuse can continue. Survivors should not be shamed. You may look at your neighbor differently when they shorten their conversations if their partner appears...